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Empowered Submission

Submission is so much more than just sexual. It is surrendering to his timing. It is giving him space when he asks for it. It is holding space for him with whatever it is he is going through. Surrendering is allowing him to take the lead. Respecting him, never speaking ill of him. Even whenContinue reading “Empowered Submission”

Absorbing the weekend

These last four days have been nothing short of magic. I feel like I’m on a spiritual initiation, something way bigger is happening than what I can comprehend. But everything is aligning divinely. When something major happens in my life, I like to reflect back. As I was preparing to write this post, I wasContinue reading “Absorbing the weekend”

First Fetish Event

I asked on my Instagram, what would you be interested more about, healthy Dom/sub dynamic or my 1st fetish event.. and it was 50/50 for both. So, I am going to write about both but let’s unravel the fetish event first. A lot’s been shifting and changing for me, in the bestest of ways possible!Continue reading “First Fetish Event”

Is trust earned or is it given?

The hot topic a few weeks ago was trust. Can it be earned or is it given freely? Prior to the show, The Deviant Code’s Noel and I had a discussion whether or not trust is given. My initial thoughts on the subject was: “On a psychological level, I feel high quality men require forContinue reading “Is trust earned or is it given?”

Feminism & BDSM

When Noel from The Deviant Code reached out and asked me to talk about modern day feminism within BDSM, I was absolutely honored. He’d been reading my blog and said he wanted my perspective on the podcast around what it means to be a feminist in 2019 and how does that play into kink (punContinue reading “Feminism & BDSM”

Submission is a gift

***Trigger warning: if you’re highly sensitive individual, it’s best you stop here and skip this post. This may be highly triggering to some, please remain respectful and compassionate if you continue to read. You are reading this at your own discretion.*** I’m very clear on my boundaries and my consent these days; don’t touch meContinue reading “Submission is a gift”

Surrender yourself

Someone asked me a little while ago what makes me feel most confident? Where do I get my confidence from? The answer surprised myself even; submission. Categorize me, I defy every label.We are such fluid human beings that anything can change at any given moment. Labels should be there only as a jump off point,Continue reading “Surrender yourself”

Trust

High value man will require two things: patience and trust. Patience is a learned skill. In order to become more patient, you have to start become more trusting. He doesn’t necessarily teach patience, he will teach that there are consequences of being impatient. What helps you slow down is, trust. Trust in your partner. Trust in your dynamic.Continue reading “Trust”